my folks didn’t live long enough for me to come out as nonbinary to them.
however, every picture of me as a toddler is in overalls and plaid. my mom pierced my ears at 6 months old because everyone mistook me for a boy.
when i was about 5, i noticed there were toys advertised for xmas with exclusively boys in the commercials. i asked my folks if hot wheels and self propelled motorcycles were only for boys. they assured me that wasn’t true and that probably the company just thought boys would like them more.
so i got hot wheels and a little motorcycle that went on its own for xmas that year.
in middle school i started shopping exclusively in the boys’ section. no one batted an eyelash. in high school i started wearing men’s cologne. not a peep.
my parents were a lot of things and were certainly imperfect. what they weren’t was cruel or oblivious.
This is a common thread I hear. I had one person tell me how their parents found their stash of clothes, and the parent, years later, goes "I believed you when you told me that it was a mix up from your sister's laundry."
"But Dad, nine times you found them?"
I was rolling when they told me this story. It just goes to show how some parents will only see what they want to be true.
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my folks didn’t live long enough for me to come out as nonbinary to them.
however, every picture of me as a toddler is in overalls and plaid. my mom pierced my ears at 6 months old because everyone mistook me for a boy.
when i was about 5, i noticed there were toys advertised for xmas with exclusively boys in the commercials. i asked my folks if hot wheels and self propelled motorcycles were only for boys. they assured me that wasn’t true and that probably the company just thought boys would like them more.
so i got hot wheels and a little motorcycle that went on its own for xmas that year.
in middle school i started shopping exclusively in the boys’ section. no one batted an eyelash. in high school i started wearing men’s cologne. not a peep.
my parents were a lot of things and were certainly imperfect. what they weren’t was cruel or oblivious.
Very appreciated!! I dropped SO MANY clues but crickets for years before I transitioned! This made me laugh 😆
This is a common thread I hear. I had one person tell me how their parents found their stash of clothes, and the parent, years later, goes "I believed you when you told me that it was a mix up from your sister's laundry."
"But Dad, nine times you found them?"
I was rolling when they told me this story. It just goes to show how some parents will only see what they want to be true.