I’ve said this often in several places: my trans family member shines like the star that they are since transitioning. They smile more, laugh more, and are now very comfortable in their skin. They have a great job, a loving partner and fuck anyone who would try to take that away with their cruelty and misinformation.
People are scared of what they don’t understand, but what’s worse is they don’t even try. Why do so many find it much easier to give into fear than to educate oneself, I’ll never understand.
Trans joy is so important to showcase. If your only exposure to trans lives is through the media, you’ll walk away with the impression that we are living breathing tragedies. By highlighting the joy we find in living as our authentic selves it shifts the narrative, which is why transphobes hate it so much. If trans people are living happy, healthy, and productive lives, it becomes very hard to pathologize us.
Truth! So let's get the stories out there, let's show the world that, in spite of everything, trans folks are just normal people trying to live happy, healthy, and productive lives!
I am 100% happier, healthier and more productive since starting HRT. I finished my degree, started a second degree, got a good job, made friends, and I’m more engaged socially and emotionally. Literally life changing for me and so many others.
I appreciate your comment, Jacqui. To clarify, my article isn't suggesting fear of cis people as a whole - rather, I'm specifically critiquing those who mischaracterize trans joy as something sinister. You're absolutely right that there are many genuine allies and supportive families who are essential in this work!
Oh sorry my comment was more in response to other comment not your piece. Your price is great and I agree. I’m a parent with quite a few trans friends so I know the strain people are under. Celebrating is important
PITT, do you really care what those insane people think? They're paranoid to a dangerous fault. All their conspiracy theories are. We can't stop what they're doing. It's best to keep being happy. That is the best revenge. Thrive. Grow. Be happy! They'll continue talking shit, and it's best to find a crack in our media presence, because they're the reason our stories aren't being told. They want this country good & ignorant. Ignorance breeds contempt and they know it. They're all in on the insanity of normalizing lies to suit their agendas.
Now, how will we put a stop to this? Know what I told a group of transwomen long before the election last year? To join with these so-called allies and ride the trains of their protests. They were starting to form before the election. To stop being afraid of cis people, because they have more power than we do. We have to! Our survival now depends on it, because we don't have the numbers for any kind of power here. So, LET'S GO! 😉😊
Do I care what Mothers Grim, Lisa Shultz, Josie Alexander or Dina Samuels (founders/main writers of pittparents.com), and that entire circle of "aggrieved and concerned parent victims" thinks? Not particularly, no.
What I do care is that Mothers Grim, and those within that circle of aggrieved parents, read things like this *and actually believe it.* I care that it serves as fuel to thrown onto the pyre from which trans folks get burned. That this just stirs the echo chamber, which then, inevitably, brings in more parents in the initial stages of coping about their kid(s) coming out, and latches onto this pseudo-scientific rhetorical claptrap. I care that this serves to bridge the gap between words, fear and anger, and action. I care that this urges people across that bridge, and I fear that these words bring about actions that result in permanent choices and damage to temporary problems.
I care that this leads parents who are in a vulnerable place to a set of behaviors and choices that breaks families apart, instead of growing together.
And besides, the original article was so ridiculous I could not help but ridicule it to some degree while peeling that onion.😉
As to the rest of your amazing comment 😊 - I think there's truth in focusing on personal happiness despite opposition - joy can indeed be a powerful form of resistance. Living our best, happiest lives, particularly in the face of difficult times or those who reject/demean you. I agree, if we want real, effective, and lasting change, we are going to have to stand firm in the face of cis people - it is ok to be scared, but we cannot let that fear win.
Building bridges with allies while continuing to call out harmful narratives (as you noted about media representation issues) seems most effective in my opinion. I'm curious about your experiences with coalition-building - what strategies have you found most effective in practice? How can we get our stories, our joy, and our lives to be told and shared?
Oh, and I'm not afraid of shit. I still know better than waste my time on unreasonable people who are closed off from any kind of rational thought. I just won't. Waking up maggots is not on my list of priorities, because they're in a deep sleep, drank the Koo-laid, and don't want to be awakened.
Then, tag those MF's in your posts, else they won't read them.
My experiences with coalition building have been great. I don't necessarily always come out as trans. It doesn't matter. I intend to ride their shirt tails to victory and even jump into some militia building myself. I might be serviced to provide intel for a grassroots organization in the near future.
As far as finding the break in the media, that probably won't happen from me. I have to deal with ageism among other things. I'm Black, in case you haven't noticed (hahahaha). We get less attention than white people do. So, they'll either have to promote us or find a hole themselves. It's entirely possible. I can't believe nobody has found someone, but I think the echo chamber in the trans community is just as bad as other communities. They're reluctant and more afraid than most to reach across the aisle.
That's all I've come up with so far. I've had stories written about me, and with me in them, but they don't cross over into corporate media. I'm still working on it. I write & speak for SAGE.
Tag her, tag her, tag her. She deserves your kind beat-down. LOL 😂 Better get to her before I do. Hahahahaha. You're lucky. I have to go run an errand and then take a nap.
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I’ve said this often in several places: my trans family member shines like the star that they are since transitioning. They smile more, laugh more, and are now very comfortable in their skin. They have a great job, a loving partner and fuck anyone who would try to take that away with their cruelty and misinformation.
People are scared of what they don’t understand, but what’s worse is they don’t even try. Why do so many find it much easier to give into fear than to educate oneself, I’ll never understand.
It is such a joy to see them unfurl and grow, it truly is. Everyone deserves to feel that way about themselves. To just be themselves. Everyone.
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You both are awesome! <3
Trans joy is so important to showcase. If your only exposure to trans lives is through the media, you’ll walk away with the impression that we are living breathing tragedies. By highlighting the joy we find in living as our authentic selves it shifts the narrative, which is why transphobes hate it so much. If trans people are living happy, healthy, and productive lives, it becomes very hard to pathologize us.
Truth! So let's get the stories out there, let's show the world that, in spite of everything, trans folks are just normal people trying to live happy, healthy, and productive lives!
I am 100% happier, healthier and more productive since starting HRT. I finished my degree, started a second degree, got a good job, made friends, and I’m more engaged socially and emotionally. Literally life changing for me and so many others.
I am so happy for you, and Good For You! One degree going on two? Awesome!
Please don’t be afraid of cis people. There are many genuine allies and families who are working hard to support our trans loved ones and friends.
I appreciate your comment, Jacqui. To clarify, my article isn't suggesting fear of cis people as a whole - rather, I'm specifically critiquing those who mischaracterize trans joy as something sinister. You're absolutely right that there are many genuine allies and supportive families who are essential in this work!
You’re in US is that right?
Oh sorry my comment was more in response to other comment not your piece. Your price is great and I agree. I’m a parent with quite a few trans friends so I know the strain people are under. Celebrating is important
PITT, do you really care what those insane people think? They're paranoid to a dangerous fault. All their conspiracy theories are. We can't stop what they're doing. It's best to keep being happy. That is the best revenge. Thrive. Grow. Be happy! They'll continue talking shit, and it's best to find a crack in our media presence, because they're the reason our stories aren't being told. They want this country good & ignorant. Ignorance breeds contempt and they know it. They're all in on the insanity of normalizing lies to suit their agendas.
Now, how will we put a stop to this? Know what I told a group of transwomen long before the election last year? To join with these so-called allies and ride the trains of their protests. They were starting to form before the election. To stop being afraid of cis people, because they have more power than we do. We have to! Our survival now depends on it, because we don't have the numbers for any kind of power here. So, LET'S GO! 😉😊
Do I care what Mothers Grim, Lisa Shultz, Josie Alexander or Dina Samuels (founders/main writers of pittparents.com), and that entire circle of "aggrieved and concerned parent victims" thinks? Not particularly, no.
What I do care is that Mothers Grim, and those within that circle of aggrieved parents, read things like this *and actually believe it.* I care that it serves as fuel to thrown onto the pyre from which trans folks get burned. That this just stirs the echo chamber, which then, inevitably, brings in more parents in the initial stages of coping about their kid(s) coming out, and latches onto this pseudo-scientific rhetorical claptrap. I care that this serves to bridge the gap between words, fear and anger, and action. I care that this urges people across that bridge, and I fear that these words bring about actions that result in permanent choices and damage to temporary problems.
I care that this leads parents who are in a vulnerable place to a set of behaviors and choices that breaks families apart, instead of growing together.
And besides, the original article was so ridiculous I could not help but ridicule it to some degree while peeling that onion.😉
As to the rest of your amazing comment 😊 - I think there's truth in focusing on personal happiness despite opposition - joy can indeed be a powerful form of resistance. Living our best, happiest lives, particularly in the face of difficult times or those who reject/demean you. I agree, if we want real, effective, and lasting change, we are going to have to stand firm in the face of cis people - it is ok to be scared, but we cannot let that fear win.
Building bridges with allies while continuing to call out harmful narratives (as you noted about media representation issues) seems most effective in my opinion. I'm curious about your experiences with coalition-building - what strategies have you found most effective in practice? How can we get our stories, our joy, and our lives to be told and shared?
Oh, and I'm not afraid of shit. I still know better than waste my time on unreasonable people who are closed off from any kind of rational thought. I just won't. Waking up maggots is not on my list of priorities, because they're in a deep sleep, drank the Koo-laid, and don't want to be awakened.
Then, tag those MF's in your posts, else they won't read them.
My experiences with coalition building have been great. I don't necessarily always come out as trans. It doesn't matter. I intend to ride their shirt tails to victory and even jump into some militia building myself. I might be serviced to provide intel for a grassroots organization in the near future.
As far as finding the break in the media, that probably won't happen from me. I have to deal with ageism among other things. I'm Black, in case you haven't noticed (hahahaha). We get less attention than white people do. So, they'll either have to promote us or find a hole themselves. It's entirely possible. I can't believe nobody has found someone, but I think the echo chamber in the trans community is just as bad as other communities. They're reluctant and more afraid than most to reach across the aisle.
That's all I've come up with so far. I've had stories written about me, and with me in them, but they don't cross over into corporate media. I'm still working on it. I write & speak for SAGE.
I can't tag them, they all blocked me, LOL. It won't be long before Mothers Grim does as well. I take it as a sign I am doing something right 😉
In as much as finding that crack, I hear you. I just wish I had insight and a path/means available to get something like that started.
No, the one who you're talking about here. She was in your article and she blocked you after putting all that garbage in your other post? The lesbian.
Oh, you mean LeAnne Owen? No, they have not blocked me yet (as of posting this comment, anyhow).
Tag her, tag her, tag her. She deserves your kind beat-down. LOL 😂 Better get to her before I do. Hahahahaha. You're lucky. I have to go run an errand and then take a nap.